Can You Really Escape "The Game?"

I was talking to a friend of mine about this earlier. Our conversation went in the direction of giving up on finding "the one" yadda, yadda, yadda...you all know that convo! We all talk about wanting someone that isn't going to play games. But is it really possible to escape "the game?"

Now EVERYONE says they don't play games yet we have all found ourselves in situation where we just knew something fishy was going down. I am not even going to sit here and say that I have never played a game. When I think about it though, it makes me sick to my stomach because it really is stupid, foolish, and immature. But as I think more and more, I have embarked on my quest to break down "the game."




Why do people play games? People play games for a number of reasons. Some play because it keeps them protected from possible hurt. The absurdity behind that is, these people are not only guarding themselves, but they are setting up a barrier between themselves and the other person preventing them from obtaining what it is they truly want. * scratchin' my head * It's like wanting something from a store you don't want to pay for.




The people you have to watch out for are those that play games and don't admit it; even to themselves. These people have supressed and lied to themselves so much that they have become victims of their own hype. These are people that refuse to look at themselves in the mirror to face themselves in efforts to learn more about who they really are - both good and bad.




One of the most intriguing thoughts I had, however, is the whole concept of unconscious game playing. Is this possible? Could it be that someone who plays games has an unconscious nack for it? This kind of game playing goes hand and hand with the last thought above. Another thought is this. Is game playing something that is interpreted by the person who is being "played?" People sometimes hide behind bold truths and being upfront. "Yeah baby - I just want to kick it with you! I'm not really looking for anything more." However, if you know the other person wants more from you, could this be construed as "playing" them, or are you just being upfront? Hmmm. I know I have definitely put some bold truths out there for others and felt vindicated knowing I did "my part," thus, exonerating myself from any wrongdoing and keeping my conscience clean. But does this necessarily mean I haven't "played" them? How do I know what this person was feeling? Did I care? Hmmm.



I guess I say all of this to, one, open a forum for discussion with regards to this topic. But secondly, though we do not "owe" anything to anyone, we are all basically looking for the same thing. I believe that we should respect and acknowledge the fact that the journey to where we want to be is a hard one at times. It is hard to open up to others. It is hard to be upfront and honest at times. It is hard to put all of your cards on the table and leave a piece of you hanging out there to dry. Perhaps we should be a bit more sensitive to the feelings of others and how they react or respond to our words and/or our actions. As Alonzo (Denzel Washington) in Training Day so poetically put it..."the sh*t is chess, not checkiz!"




SELFISH - looking after own desires: concerned with your own interests, needs, and wishes while ignoring those of others.




Another DJPARALLEL random thought!! Think about it!




ORIGINAL POST DATE: 2/28/07 (YAHOO 360)